It...is not any one thing. I don't believe that it is an urge one can simply turn on or off. You must grapple with it every day—whether to make the effort to react instead of always acting. It's not what people like us know how to do.

[ He shrugs uneasily ]

In my experience, it is always a new struggle each day. And the only way to improve is to start trying.

And, perhaps, by not mixing all of your fun into work.